So, here is a peek into my life. My husband and I run a business together. uniquely Yours Photography – yes, it’s a shameless plug. Now at first glance you’d think it’s the ideal situation – I mean you can work with someone you trust above all others right. Yu know their strengths and weaknesses and all that jazz right. Baby, let me tell you – even though my husband and I get along well, working with him was a challenge.
When I tell you the Caldwell household was in disarray to the point where I would just agree with whatever he wanted. You want to shoot events – cool. Oh, now it’s purple elephants – fine with me, just so we wouldn’t clash over decisions. Well – that didn’t work, so what we ended up doing is…
Divide the responsibilities
This way each person would have full control in their area but suggestions would be considered. Since Photgraphy is my husband’s passion, it made sense that he handles all things photography related, and taking into consideration that he is infinitely better with managing money, he would handle the finances.
Having more of an administrative and technical background, I oversaw creating the website and all the clerical aspects.
Set aside separate work spaces
Not only did my husband and I clash over decision making, but we also physically got in each other’s way around the office. In the beginning, we only devoted a single room to the business. The logistics behind this decision was that we thought being in the same room would foster communication and facilitate open discussion and productivity. Yeah right!
The problem was that the space was so small that the only thing we fostered was tension. Our respective work spaces were so tight that we literally ran into each other on a constant basis. This caused unnecessary frustration because we both felt extremely claustrophobic. However, I will admit, I venture into his space a lot. Confession – I still think better when I’m looking at him.
Make time for each other
It’s tempting to keep talking shop when you leave the office, but for the sake of your marriage, set a hard-and-fast deadline to wrap it up before you leave. It’s important that you separate your work and home life and can transition thinking about your family and your relationship, rather than living, sleeping, and breathing your job.
We set aside dates and times when we just hung out. We go out to dinner, to the movies, we even take walks and talk about anything and everything but work.
And above all…
Remember You’re on the same team
When miscommunication and disagreements get in the way, it can be a challenge to remember that you’re on the same team.